There is a big misconception about introverts. Many people think that just means you are shy. But really, being an introvert has more to do with being introspective. Introverts are more concerned with thinking and exploring their thoughts and feelings. Introverts tend to have fewer friends, and they prefer it that way. Some may be shy as well, but that is not always the case. While an introvert is quiet and less sociable, it doesn’t mean they are uncomfortable in social situations. They just enjoy being alone more. Now, if someone you know jumps into your head when you read this, I’m not surprised, because we all know a few introverts. Heck, maybe you are one.
At the other end of the spectrum is the extrovert. We all know who they are. They are the ones in the center of their circle of friends relating a joke, singing a song, or just telling everyone how they feel. Extroverts enjoy parties, are talkative, and enthusiastic. They are energized by spending time with others. We all like to hang out with extroverts. They keep us entertained and always have something to say.
According to Wikipedia, approximately 16% of us are introverts and 16% are extroverts. And the rest of us? Well, we fall into a category known as ambiverts. Never heard of an ambivert? I’m not surprised. Those extroverts are always getting all the attention! But ambiverts are the people in between the introverts and extroverts. They are comfortable in social situations, but also relish their time alone. Ambiverts make up about 68% of us. So look around. Many of those you see are ambiverts, and most of you are one, too!
And I admit I’m surely an ambivert. I have the introverted tendencies to want go into my cave and just think…plot. But then when I’m asked to come out of my cave and talk to writer’s groups or schools, I love sharing my passion for writing. And because I do love it, people just assume I’m an extrovert. But I know I fall in the 68%.
However, ambiverts don’t stand out as well as introverts and extroverts. So, authors often write about those extremes. Think about your favorite TV shows or movies. Chances are many of the characters fall into the introvert or extrovert category. Extremes are more interesting, unique, and make for better reading or viewing.
What about Kylie? Well, she likes to retreat to her room or even to the falls, but she also enjoys hanging out with Miranda, Della and the other campers (as long as they are aren’t staring at her forehead, trying to figure out what she is!). So, I think she’s an ambivert. And Derek? Well, I’d say he’s an ambivert, too. But Lucas? He’s most definitely an introvert. Aren’t all werewolves by nature?
So what are you? Where do you fit in?