To Resolute or Not to Resolute

fa757bcac08468df88e20139d65742dbIt’s a New Year.  For some of us it means new goals.  New hope.  A fresh start.

Yup, it’s New Year’s resolution time.  Time to reflect.  Time to plan.  Time to shake off our mistakes and start brand new with a different blueprint.

I totally get why some people have given up on the process and why they’ve concluded it never works.  A lot of our last year’s resolutions lie littered at our feet, collecting like dead leaves.  And if you look back to past years, I can only conclude I need a big rake and big wheel barrel to move those dead goals to a big compost pile.

It’s so dad-burn, dad-blasted infuriatingly frustrating realizing we didn’t meet last year’s goals.  Or even the year before.  It’s hard to swallow the fact that we failed.  Yup, I see why some just give up.  I get it.  I understand it.

But I can’t go there.

Now, I’m not questioning anyone’s process.  Nor will I try to tell you what you should do.  I think everyone deals with hope, goals, and even failure differently.  The self-improvement journey is a very personal process.  What motivates one person, can send another into sheer panic mode.

Yet, in my mind, shedding myself of the whole New Year’s resolution process is like I’m saying, “I’ll just fail so why try?”  It’s throwing in the towel, before I step into the ring.  It’s concluding that I have no control over my future.  And I just can’t do that.

So here I sit, after I’ve spent New Year’s morning watching the CBS Sunday Morning show.  And I’m caught in this emotional, but hopeful mood. While my husband always watches these end-of-the-year shows, I’ve been known to avoid them because as I told my husband last year, “I’ve already grieved for the bad things that happened this year and for the people we lost. Why start out on the New Year’s journey carrying that pain in my pocket?”

no-resolutionAnd yet, today I have a slightly different perspective on it.  I mean, I’ve always known that pain can be cathartic.  That it can point to a problem, that it can remind us of our mistakes, and often times, only by reflecting on the pain can we move past something.  But as I was hit by all of the senseless loss of life, like what happened in Orlando, I felt the anger and the empathy for the families of those who died, but I also recalled how the tragedy brought some of us closer.  How strangers reached out to help strangers.  Right then, I realized we shouldn’t wait for tragedy to reach out.  Why wait to offer a little time to the lonely, a smile to strangers, and a few dollars to a charity that tugs at our heartstrings, when we can do it now?

When I was forced to see the faces and grieve again for all those who made me smile, dance, and think—the ones who brought me and millions of others joy—I realized that as sad as this loss is, the reason they have touched the lives of so many is because they followed their dreams.   They set out to make their lives, their goals and resolutions.  They fought against failure, they took chances.  I’m sure they had their share of failed resolutions.  Some of them shared their demons with us.  Some of them lost to that demon.  But their triumphs can be an inspiration and their pain and failures can offer wisdom.  And the fact that they are no longer with us, offers us a realization that time, love and life isn’t a promise.  It’s a gift we should not waste.

So with all these scrambled emotions rushing through me, I finally came up with my resolutions.  I know they say to be specific, but this year, I’m trying something different.  This year, I want to be more aware of my choices.  Each and every one of them.  I want to be present and mindful in my decisions.

Before I choose to play a computer game for the third or fourth round, I want to be conscious of how I’m using my time.  Before I eat the second or third cookie, I want to be aware that I’m choosing to stay at my current weight or possibly gain more.  Before I buy my trigger foods that encourage me to cheat, I want to realize I’m probably going to cheat.  Before I make other commitments to people, I want to consider how that effects my writing time.  I want my choice to stay up too late, to compute to the fact that I’m choosing to be less productive the next day.

slide_331219_3272321_freeI want to be more conscious that will power isn’t one big thing.  It’s a lot of little things.  A lot of little choices.  I want to realize that I’m the one who’s responsible for my life.  Perhaps everything isn’t in my control, but for the things that are, I want to be in the driver’s seat. And I don’t want to end up someplace where I don’t want to be because I kept my blinders on.

So what about you?  What’s your take on resolutions?  Have you made any?

Today I will offer a copy of one of any book in my Shadow Falls series, to one person who leaves a comment.  Oh, and Happy New Year! (Sorry, but this giveaway is for US residents only. And, as always, if you’re reading this on Goodreads, you must go to my blog site and leave a comment there to enter.)

Winner!!

The winner of last week’s giveaway is Victoria A. Congratulations! Please email me at cc@cchunterbooks.com and send me your mailing address.

15 thoughts on “To Resolute or Not to Resolute

  1. Loved your shadow falls series. Sad to see it come to an end, but glad there was a good ending. Any chance you will visit these characters again through new storylines/characters? Looking forward to learning more about your new series as well.

  2. I use to make them. But I have a hard time keeping them. So I did not make any this year. I think we should do spiritual resolutions become better people by helping others.

  3. My New Years Resolution is to keep my health in order. I am very skinny and weak. So I plan on gaining weight (in a good way) and exercise a lot more so that I can get some muscle. I also want to look at the positive moments this year. Happy New Year.

  4. While I haven’t selected a particular New Year’s Resolution, I can say this much:

    1) I plan to refrain from being that person who intentionally makes someone else have a “bad day.” In other words, even if I feel like I’m having a “bad day,” I don’t want to project that emotion on to another person.
    2) I plan to gradually increase my physical activity until it becomes habit for me. So many people say they want to “get healthy” or “workout more,” but even that can sometimes be a burden to an unwilling individual. By gradually increasing my physical activity, it can be walking around my workplace during periods of slow time or it could be hitting the gym to lift weights or some other activity.
    3) I plan to write every day. What type of writing I do is debatable. It could be a story I’ve already started working on or it could simply be a blog post on one of my social media accounts. I want to make this a steady habit without putting undo pressure on myself, and with this being day 3 of the new year, I’m already going strong. 🙂

    This was a bit lengthy, but I appreciate you listening, C.C. 😀

    Happy New Year!
    Amy G.

  5. I have to say I loved your blog, so inspiring! To be honest I have never chosen to look at new years resolutions that way. Giving yourself a choice will probably make having a resolution more fun! I always try to pick a goal that seems achievable and I do my best.
    I always shoot to read more than 150+ books a year. I love to read and I spend the majority of my free time stuck in a book so I never have quite a hard time with this goal.
    I set myself a goal this year to get at least a four month head start on my Christmas presents list lol. I knit a lot of things for people and trying to get it all done the last two months cause I didn’t make time earlier is very stressful.
    Lastly I promised myself I would do at least one good thing for a charity at least once a month, whether that be donating money or my time.

  6. I usually make new years resolutions but if I fail I’m never discouraged because I know it’s a life change and that it’s a slow process. I did keep true to some of my last year’s resolutions. I lost 25 lbs and my writing is still going strong! But that was the only year I stuck to it.

  7. As most people tend to not keep there resolutions, mine always has been to be better than the year before. A better wife, better mom, better sister, better daughter, better aunt, just an overall better person.

  8. My New Years Resolution is to get through 2017! Every year is the same year! 2018 will be my far best one because of my graduation and How much I’ve come far through this journey of my high school years, not only did I accomplish things but happy ones, starting my brand new life out there and I’m truly excited about it, no matter what things come through my way I’ll always find a way to believe in myself and the choices I make. Cheers to 2017! Much love from you CC Hunter!

  9. My new year resolutions are to be better than the year before and to just really get through 2017 to see the Bright side of things instead of focusing on the bad

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