Do you remember your first love? I do. And psychologists say, that most of us do. So why are first loves so unforgettable? Why does our memory of our first love stay with us? Well, according to Psychology Today, “Life changing is how ‘in-love’ feels in adolescence because it is a far more moving and compelling relationship than the young people have known before. The experience is all consuming — so each is always on the other’s mind…They are highly sensitized to each other — so both are alert to subtle interpersonal signals and are easily hurt by small slights from each other. The intimacy is deeper than with anyone else..”
In This Heart of Mine, Leah has had a crush on Matt for years. When they join forces to discover what really happened to his brother, Eric, an attraction between them grows. But even when Matt kisses her and they become a couple, Leah is still filled with doubts. She wonders if Matt only likes her because she has his brother’s heart. Or maybe because he thinks she can help him solve the mystery of Eric’s death. She is constantly reading things into Matt’s actions and wondering where their love will lead. Leah isn’t alone in her feelings.
Falling in love for the first time is a pretty exciting time, but it’s also common to have lots of insecurities about the relationship. I can remember wondering if my first boyfriend was going to dump me because of another girl or something I did or didn’t do. And I still remember him—just maybe not in a good way. But many people carry a torch for their first love for years, maybe forever. There are even stories of people reuniting with their first loves many years later, but that’s not very common. For most of us our first love is the one that awakened our emotions and showed us how much we can feel. So no matter how the relationship ended, the intensity of the relationship lingers.
Do you remember your first love? Do you still think about him/her?
Read more about Leah and Matt as they put themselves in danger while trying to discover the truth—and fall in love along the way—in This Heart of Mine. You can order your copy today at Amazon, Barnes &Noble, Powell’s, Indiebound, Books-A-Million, and iBooks.